Victim?

Do you knowingly or unknowingly play the victim?  Stay quiet when you should speak up. Even with parents, friends, or colleagues at work? Or in retrospect years later when you want to kick yourself. How many times do we say “I wish I had—” said or done this or that? 

The problem is that when you think of yourself as a victim, you become one. Why is that important? It leads to destructive beliefs like everyone is smarter than I am, so I’d better let them make the decisions. I’ll do what they say – they know what I should do, they are better than me. If I depend on them, I can relax and not think about anything. 

In other words you give up and allow others to take control of your life. It may seem like the best thing to do . You are off the hook for everything. But is it? 

You get smaller and smaller instead of bigger and bigger preventing any chance for you to grow. You allow other to choose. You – give – up. 

If you remain a victim you will never take control of your fate or any success you might have because it all belongs to them. Like a child they are in charge of your life.  

We are responsible for ourselves – no one else is.  

Turn it around and choose to find what make you happy. 

Author: Irene Kessler

My life was filled with mountains and boulders. In order to survive I had many different jobs and adventures I want to tell you about. There is not enough room to tell you all I did so I'll hit some highlights. Born in the Bronx, NYC, I grew up to sing opera in the U.S. and Europe. Next I became a psychologist and practiced in NYC and again when I moved to Florida. My first book "Mountain of Full Moons" will be out in April of 2020 and I am now writing a memoir because as I said to the principal during first grade, "I have a lot to say." I am the mother of two men and a woman all in their 60's, four grandchildren and one great-grandchild - therefore my blog "Who am I and Why and subtitle almost a century because I am crawling closer and closer to the goal of 103. I love life and try to live it to the fullest. I'm a vegetarian of 30 years and healthy. Oh yes, I should mention my two divorces.

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